Why if someone is not happy, he is sad ?
Why if a person is not good, he is bad ?

Why if there is no peace, there is only fight ?
Why people fight, even they are not right ?

Why if a coin is not head, it is only tail ?
Why one gets success, other becomes  fail ?

Why if one is unlucky, other is fortunate ?
Why if there is no love, there is only hate ?

Why people are either civil, or they are only evil ?
Why either there is angel, or there is only devil ?

Why after growing up, one has to fell ?
Why after heaven, there is only hell ?

Apart from heaven made relations, the only category left is hell made relations..I am sorry..I mean the relations which are chosen by us – Man Chosen Relations. However, I truly believe that whether they are heaven made relations or not, it’s our choice how we take them.  The biggest tragedy of man chosen relations is they are very momentary in nature. These days, one need not waits for any change in emotions, he changes the relation itself. It’s just like buying a new car, for few days, you take care of it like your baby, and then you never bother to look even if someone hits it hard from back on the road. Furthermore, later you end up buying a new Car. See, we treat our relations like machines, or should I say with a positive tone, we are not bias & we weigh relationships with human beings & machines on the same scale.  Man chosen relations don’t have permanent life, it can last for a year, or it may last for a night.

Apart from our parents or siblings, whoever we choose comes into this category. However still there is one relation, which is having a big time controversy. This is no one but the husband-wife relationship. A fraction of people still believes that this relation too comes under the custody of “GOD” but masses don’t agree with them. I am sure the time has come where we can tell our next generations that we were born when Pluto was a planet and marriages were made in heaven. Marriages start with honeymoon and end with the taste of bitter gourd. Following the same trend, corporate started using the same term; they call first few days as the honeymoon period. Marriages lost their charm and result into demoting from heaven to hell made relations. Change in emotions becomes past and the relation remains with “no emotions” are our present. Gone are the days, when you rarely hear about any divorces, now I doubt if there are more divorces than marriages.

Husband-wife relation doesn’t wait for change in emotions but girlfriend (GF) – boyfriend (BF) relationship fits into this requirement. I heard one of my friends who was saying, “Earlier it was tough to convince girls for a relationship, but it was good as at-least if they are convinced, it lasts for long or forever but now it takes minutes to convince them, & later also, it takes minutes by others to convince them.” This is the most affected relationship which is severely suffering from “change in emotions” syndrome. All the butterflies in the stomach, which makes you feel in heaven while saying “I love You” for the first time, get killed instantly & terribly by other butterflies which come into existence due to another girl/boy. Earlier BF-GF used to hide their relationship, now they want to publicise it. I am sure the terms like “committed”, “In a relationship”, “it’s complicated” & even “Break up” come all together. All these terms are the sure shot examples of change in emotions. Although, people are really very happy with this change. New gf/bf comes with “new” happiness. Isn’t it?

Relationship between friends is also affected by a change in emotions. Those who help you in your exams become your past, and those who help you in your job/business become your friends. And we always blame other for not playing his/her part in friendship. Ego has taken its place and playing a dominating rôle. With busyness in our life, we forget our friends who helped us when we needed someone desperately. On the name of hectic schedule, marriage or cruel boss not allowing for leaves, we convince ourselves that we are good friends but circumstances are not favourable. And the biggest excuse is we end up saying, “That’s Life, that’s how it goes”.

The most expected “change in emotions” relationship is shared between Employee & Employer.  Every candidate sitting on the other side of interview table keeps convincing about his loyalty and dedication towards job. And the moment he gets the confirmation, he updates his status & information on all networking websites, throwing parties to friends, his parents telling everyone about their child’s success. However, this is also not permanent. That dedication or loyalty can evaporate the moment, they get better job-offer, may be on the next day after their joining. Every employer sounds good to an employee until he is appreciating his (employee) efforts but the moment employer starts picking up the mistakes, emotions get a U-turn, and that boss turns into an Asshole! Height of united ‘change in emotions” comes into the picture when everyone is convinced by an employee that boss is not good without having any personal grievances. Strange but true!

The funniest side is even God cannot escape from the terror of our change in emotions. Like sensex, our relationship or our belief on god keeps fluctuating. We never thank him for whatever happiness we have in our life, but we never forget to blame him for our sadness. When we are in a temple, we try to pretend that we are closest to him but while destroying our other relationships, we neglect his presence. We just need some permanency in our emotions & I think, then,  this world will start looking beautiful once again. Amen!